With Valentines’ Day upon us, many have begun to wonder how they can improve their relationships. Some may think it is through big romantic gestures or thoughtful expensive gifts. While all of these may work, there are easier (and cheaper) ways to win over your valentine.
First off, daily affirmations. Doing something as simple as texting your significant other ‘good morning’ or telling them they looked great today can do a lot to boost a person’s confidence and make them feel more comfortable around you. Feelings of comfort and safety are key to maintaining a healthy relationship, and minimizing lingering feelings of self-doubt. Additionally, kindness is karma: by making your love and appreciation for others clear, you will also become better at building relationships.
Secondly, it is extremely important to understand your partner. If daily affirmations make them uncomfortable, then steer clear of that. But if their love language is words of affirmation, make sure to put in extra effort so that they know how important they are to you. If they prefer physical touch, give them all the hugs and kisses they need to feel loved and supported. If they need quality time with you to feel valued, then make sure you carve out moments to spend with them. While the list goes on, the point is simple. Being in a relationship requires effort in making sure your partner knows they are valued. The extra work you put in may seem like a lot, but the love and appreciation they give to you in return is sure to be worth it.
Given all of that, it is important to remember not to expect too much out of your partner. Doing so may lead to bitterness and resentment on both ends, things which will only deteriorate your relationship. Instead, it is important to be understanding and forgiving when they can not reciprocate the effort you put in. In the end, you are doing this for them, not for you, and thus you can not expect the world of them. Your partner should allow the same leeway to you, as patience is essential when navigating the rocky waters of dating.
In conclusion, be accepting. You and your partner may not always be able to make time for each other, and you likely will go through rough patches. But by maintaining open, honest, and respectful communication with each other, the chances of bouncing back from misunderstanding or an argument with your loved one will be all the more likely. Through knowing your partner and what they are comfortable with, you can foster a healthy and long-lasting relationship for many Valentines’ Days to come.
